About Elyssa
THE WOMAN BEHIND BECOMING HER
I help ambitious women elevate their emotional intelligence, break lifelong patterns, and become the most grounded, confident version of themselves.
But my work didn’t start in a coaching program or a classroom.
It started in the story I was born into.
THE EARLY CHAPTERS: GROWING UP FAST IN A WORLD THAT WASN’T SAFE
I grew up in an environment that required emotional vigilance from an early age.
My childhood was shaped by instability, trauma, and dynamics that taught me how to “be strong” before I ever understood what strength really meant. I learned to read rooms, anticipate emotional storms, and carry responsibilities no child should ever have to carry.
These experiences shaped the woman I became — resourceful, intuitive, hyper-aware, and deeply empathetic — but they also shaped my patterns. For years, I survived by suppressing, pleasing, over-functioning, and running on emotional autopilot.
I understood people deeply…
but I didn’t yet understand myself.
ADULTHOOD: WHEN OLD PATTERNS MEET NEW REALITIES
As an adult, I became the woman who looked “strong” on the outside but felt disconnected on the inside.
I found myself in relationships that mirrored old wounds.
I fell into familiar patterns — overgiving, overthinking, attracting emotionally unavailable people, and losing myself in the process.
Even with all my logic and awareness, I couldn’t outrun the patterns that lived in my subconscious.
This is where most women get stuck — understanding the problem but not knowing how to shift it.
I was her.
Until life demanded change.
THE TURNING POINT: LOSS, REBUILDING, AND MOVING 3,000 MILES FOR A FRESH START
Loss, trauma, and heartbreak forced me to face myself in a way I never had before.
At 30 years old, I packed up my life and moved from Boston to Los Angeles — alone.
Not to escape my past, but to rebuild my future.
And that’s exactly what I did.
I began studying human behavior through a completely different lens. I dove deeper into:
• emotional intelligence
• developmental psychology
• trauma-informed work
• attachment and communication patterns
• neuroscience
• nervous system functioning
• cognitive-behavioral techniques
• subconscious reprogramming
Healing wasn’t a light-switch moment — it was a long, intentional reclaiming of who I truly was beneath all the coping mechanisms.
And it changed everything.
THE EDUCATION BEHIND THE EVOLUTION
Before coaching, I spent 20+ years teaching, mentoring, guiding, and studying human development.
I have:
• a Bachelor’s degree in Education
• a minor in Developmental Psychology
• a decade working in the public school system
• years of hands-on experience supporting children, families, and complex emotional dynamics
• advanced training in trauma-informed coaching, EI development, and mindset transformation
And while my academic background shaped my understanding of people…
It was my personal story that shaped my ability to guide them.
My deepest work has always been internal — unlearning what I inherited, healing what I carried, and relearning what healthy actually feels like.
Over time, what started as survival became a calling.
And that calling became Becoming Her.
THE BECOMING HER SELF-MASTERY METHOD™
The Becoming Her Self-Mastery Method is my signature approach, designed to help women understand and change their emotional patterns from the inside out.
It blends:
• emotional intelligence
• mindset rewiring
• subconscious pattern identification
• trauma-informed awareness
• identity expansion
• developmental psychology
• grounded, practical tools
• direct, no-BS guidance
This is not surface-level “feel good” coaching.
This is deep, transformative, introspective work that helps you:
• understand your emotional patterns
• break generational cycles
• shift how you show up in relationships
• strengthen your self-trust
• develop emotional maturity
• build boundaries that stick
• lead yourself powerfully
• step into the woman you’ve always known you could be
Becoming Her is not about changing who you are —
it’s about reconnecting with who you were always meant to be.
THE WOMAN I AM TODAY
Today, I help women who are ambitious, self-aware, emotionally intuitive — and tired of repeating the same patterns.
Women who want :
• deeper emotional intelligence
• healthier relationships
• stronger boundaries
• more self-awareness
• emotional maturity
• clarity, confidence, and internal peace
• to break generational patterns
• to stop repeating the same cycles
• to create a life that actually feels good
I help women understand themselves in a way that changes everything.
I help women who don’t just want a better life —
they want to understand themselves in a way that changes how they live their life.
I do this work because I’ve lived every chapter of it — the pain, the patterns, the breakthroughs, the rebuilding, the rise.
I know how overwhelming it feels to be stuck.
And I know how powerful it feels when everything finally clicks.
My mission is simple:
To help you create the emotional foundation you were never taught — so you can build the life you’ve always wanted.
Because when you master your inner world, your entire outer world shifts with it.
WHAT I BELIEVE
I believe emotional intelligence is the foundation of every healthy relationship — especially the one you have with yourself.
I believe women aren’t “too much” — they’re too unsupported.
I believe your patterns make sense when you understand where they came from.
I believe self-mastery isn’t about perfection — it’s about awareness.
I believe healing isn’t linear — it’s cyclical, intelligent, and transformative.
I believe every woman can become the version of herself she thought she’d lost.
And I believe the work begins within.
YOUR BECOMING HER ERA STARTS NOW
If you’re ready to break old patterns, understand yourself deeply, and step confidently into your Becoming HER era…
I’m here to guide you.
Private coaching for ambitious women ready to elevate.