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Helping women have healthier relationships with themselves and others

Psychology-informed Coaching 

focused on strengthening

self-understanding, identity, and self-trust

Happy Woman

Becoming HER provides psychology-informed coaching for women who want to better understand who they are, how their identity was shaped, and how that identity is driving their choices and relationships.

THE BECOMING HER SECURE SELF FRAMEWORK™

Becoming HER is about building a strong, secure sense of self.

   

Not therapy. Not quick fixes.

 

Psychology-informed coaching that helps you understand your patterns, strengthen self-trust, and build healthier relationships with yourself and others.

 

The Becoming HER Secure Self Framework™ is structured around four core areas of development that clarify your identity and reshape the way you relate.

1. Identity Clarity

 

You’ll develop a clear understanding of how your experiences, beliefs, and roles have shaped your identity — and how that identity influences the way you think, choose, and relate.

2. Emotional Clarity

 

You’ll develop the ability to accurately identify your emotions, communication patterns, and internal reactions — and understand how they shape your decisions and relationships.

3. Self-Trust & Standards

 

You’ll strengthen your ability to trust your judgment, define your standards, and enforce boundaries — consistently and without hesitation.

4. Relational Standards

 

You’ll approach relationships with clear expectations, consistent boundaries, and the ability to choose connections that align with your values.

This is how you build the clarity, stability, and self-trust that define a secure woman.

This is how you Become HER.

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After just one session
with me!

Claire S.

Food Developer & Creator

Los Angeles, CA

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Work With Me

Whether you're looking for targeted clarity or deeper identity development, there are two ways we can work together

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The Becoming HER Precision Session

A focused 90 minute coaching session designed to bring clarity to one specific issue, decision, or relational pattern that feels unclear or stuck.

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The Becoming HER Method

A 12 week structured coaching program designed to build a secure sense of self, create healthier relationships, and strengthen self-trust. 

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Meet Your Coach

I’m Elyssa — and I help women build a stronger, more secure sense of self.

 

With a background in education and developmental psychology, my work focuses on helping you understand your patterns, strengthen your self-trust, and improve the way you show up in your relationships.

 

When you understand yourself clearly, you make better decisions, set stronger boundaries, and show up with more confidence.

 

This is thoughtful, psychology-informed coaching for women who are ready for meaningful change.

“I don't know how you do it, but you just explain things in a way that makes sense.”

--Ilaria C.

Educator & Entrepreneur

Los Angeles, CA

It's Time To Become HER ... On Purpose!

This work isn't about motivation. 

It's about insight, standards, and lasting change. 

If you're ready to understand your patterns, strengthen self-trust, and raise the standard for how you relate  - you're ready for the work.

Start Becoming HER Today! 

Becoming HER

Real women. Real breakthroughs. Real transformation.

Helping women build the emotional intelligence, self-trust, and relational foundations they need to become the most confident version of themselves.

What I Focus On

    •    Emotional intelligence development

    •    Identity work

    •    Self-trust & self-confidence

    •    Healthy interpersonal + relational skills

    •    Behavior & pattern awareness

 

My Approach

Psychology-backed, forward-moving coaching.

Email: info@elyssakate.com​​

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